Why do "Vanillas" always think that somehow you will want them if only you get to know them... or think that "No, you dont really want all that do you?" Or "Im sure you just need some love (OR ME) and you will never want that again! Like they are "special" and they'll CURE me of my S&M dreams.

And then they get angry and call you a slut or a bitch cause you try and inform them up front who you are so that it never gets to the point of you breaking up or cheating or divorcing them years later after your subby urges keep sneaking up and begging you to satisfy them.